Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.
Barbara de Angelis
Over the 29 years that I have lived, I am most positive that time is one of the most valuable resources ever given. I have learned that we spend more time giving to others and not emerging ourselves in self-reflection. As a woman it seems as if we were created to give. Our maternal instinct enforces it. Let’s be real. It is easier to “give” than to “receive”. As entrepreneurs, this shows up with potential clients. We tend to want to push the servant leader in us and do whatever it is to provide assistance no matter how much time it takes us. This shows up in the form of having “verbal” contracts, letting someone continue to use our service without making a monetary payment, or having long coffee meetings to allow someone to pick our brains. In reality what we are telling the world is we do not value our needs, desires, strengths, or time. Now face the truth, you are not respecting your immediate needs of paying your bills buying toothpaste, etc. Our biggest desire is to create a life we really want.
Peter Hamilton said it best,
“If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.”
With that being said, if you do not stand firm in your beliefs, who else will?
I even wonder when we give too much time to someone or something are we trying to fill a void and trying to gain some type of validation? Valuing yourself is one of of the most efficacious ways of rejuvenating the mind and worth. That is the only type of validation you should desire for your time.